Before you search for a legal representative, take time to reflect. What values do you want to govern the relationship? What goals are important for you to achieve? You probably have a general sense of what you want, but the more specific you can be at the beginning, the better.
Understand Your Purpose
“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” – Brian Tracy
Why, exactly, do you want an attorney? You want a specific-enough answer, so that you can easily answer the question: is this relationship on purpose or off purpose? Here are some possible reasons:
- You want to heal your family after a single unpleasant incident. For instance, maybe a school nurse noticed that your child had unusual bruises that she picked up after getting bumped on the playground. She reported her concern to authorities, which touched off a nightmare process for you and your partner. You want this process to end, ASAP.
- Your ex-spouse made false accusations that you hit, underfed or neglected your children. You obviously want to fight these allegations and clear your name, but you also want to finalize the divorce process with as little “drama” as possible and limit or prevent further legal and emotional peril.
- Your spouse (or another caregiver) engaged in parental alienation, and now your child thinks you did some act of wrongdoing that you did not do. Not only do you want to make sure that the truth is known, but you’d also like to restore your relationship with your child and hold the person who engaged in the alienating acts to justice.
Try this exercise right now. (Don’t worry about giving a “perfect” answer. Just write down a first draft – whatever comes to mind.)
The reason I need a lawyer for my case is:
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